Penis Enlargement

Many couples have found placing a vibrator on or near a woman’s clitoris during intercourse increases the likelihood of orgasm. Placing a vibrator directly against a woman’s clitoris may not be necessary or desired. Placing it against the pubic mound or outer labia often results in sufficient clitoral stimulation for orgasm to occur. A wand shaped vibrator, like the Hitachi Magic Wand, is one possible choice. Rechargeable vibrators may be more convenient as there is no power cord to get in the way. The small but powerful battery powered Pocket Rocket works very well, and is mentioned again below. If the vibrator is powerful, to soften the vibrations, place a small folded towel between a woman’s clitoris and the vibrator. Vibrators should be seen as a way of enhancing sexual pleasure, not as taking away from it.

Dildos and Harnesses: Not Just for Women

While we may assume only lesbians would have a use for a dildo in a harness, men can and do use them too. By using a dildo in place of their penis men can actually relax and enjoy sex with their partner to a greater degree because there is far less pressure to perform, i.e. stress. There is simply much less for them to worry about. They do not have to be concerned about ejaculating too quickly or loosing their erection. They can literally lie back and relax. By removing some of the fear and self-doubt many men experience they will find increased sexual happiness. When and if a man seeks to experience orgasm, a couple can engage in whatever sexual activities they desire, including penile-vaginal intercourse.

While some may be concerned about the possible loss of physical intimacy, this will not occur. The amount of physical contact decreases very little by using a dildo. Emotional intimacy is always of greater importance. If a couple has the appropriate mind set, not holding to the false expectation that a “man” must have an erection and ejaculate for there to be “sex,” intimacy will not be adversely affected. Keep in mind, penile/vaginal contact does not guarantee intimacy. There may actually be increased intimacy because there will be fewer things to distracted a couple. He will not be worrying about not lasting long enough and she will not be worrying about taking too long. If they experience increased pleasure with fewer fears, sex is going to be more pleasurable and fulfilling for both.

The use of a dildo in a harness can increase the number sexual activities a couple can explore and the length of those activities. A woman can sit straddling her partner, and possibly caress her clitoris, while rocking her hips for as long as her heart desires; allowing her partner to observe and share in her pleasure with fewer distractions. A couple can take turns doing the pelvic rocking or thrusting and extend the duration of intercourse. They can simply cuddle while the woman enjoys the feeling of her vagina being filled. A woman can explore and discover if bigger really is better, or switch to smaller when necessary. A couple can explore changing roles by having the woman wear the harness and penetrate her partner. This allows “heterosexual” men to explore fellatio and anal penetration. A dildo and harness will enhance rather than take away from a couple’s sexual experiences if they are open to the idea. As an interesting side note, there are lesbians who feel they are better sexual partners because their penis, a dildo in a harness, is always erect and they never have to worry about ejaculating too quickly, but as a consequence their partner may expect marathon and acrobatic sex.

Women naturally have varying needs and desires when it comes to penetrative sex. A couple can choose a dildo of a size, firmness, and texture that fulfill a woman’s individual needs and desires during each sexual activity. She may prefer a small flexible dildo during fellatio and anal intercourse but a large firm one during vaginal intercourse, as an example. If a woman finds deep penetration painful, she can choose a dildo of appropriate size. If she desires more stimulation, she can choose one with bumps and ridges. She can choose a dildo shaped in a way that stimulates her G-Spot. It should be noted that silicone dildos are perhaps the best choice of materials, as well as dildos made from cyberskin, but these are more expensive and harder to care for than silicone. A couple should invest in a high quality harness and dildos because the cheap plastic ones simply do not work; the all in one $20 specials belong in the trash not the bedroom. A $100 investment will serve a couple for many years. Parents should note that gift certificates for on-line adult stores make great gifts for young adults and the economically disadvantaged at Christmas and birthdays.
Important Note: Men can use their fingers, as mentioned above, to stimulate their partner’s vagina. It is not necessary to use a penis or dildo to stimulate the vagina for it to be pleasurable for both. Using a dildo in a harness is just one option available to couples.