Learn Your Body

Thursday, October 2, 2008 21:27
Posted in category Pre Orgasmic

It is highly recommended that you get a mirror and look at your vulva and learn what is there. You should do this on a regular basis, to keep tabs on your genital health; when you do your monthly breast exam do a vulvar exam too. Identify all your bits and pieces. Yes, it can be confusing at first, but with time and guidance from the information in the anatomy and Q&A sections you will soon be able to identify everything. You may be surprised to learn how much is there, that there is a lot “down there”. If you cannot look at your genitals and feel good about what you see, it makes it much more difficult for you to touch your vulva and enjoy it. Remember, no matter how your genitals may look, they are perfectly normal.
Every woman should consider trimming her pubic hair short, and possibly shaving her vulva, at least once so she can see and explore her genitals unobstructed. Basically discover/rediscover her genitals for the first time since puberty, growing pubic hair. There is more there than a hole and hair. If you are able to show off your vulva, it may give you a little more self confidence too. In addition, any daily activity that requires you to look at and touch your vulva is beneficial, especially if has nothing to do with hygiene, i.e. cleaning.
Try relaxing around the house while nude and letting it all hang out, and outside if circumstances permit. Go shopping while wearing a dress or skirt with nothing underneath, allowing the air to stimulate your vulva. Not only is is healthier to do so, the naughtiness may sexually arouse you. You don’t have to be a good girl all the time. You can certainly choose clothing that conceals the fact you are bare bottomed underneath.
Nobody’s body is perfect, no one’s. Don’t allow yourself, as hard as it may be, to be misled by the anorexic airbrushed female bodies shown in magazines, they don’t exist in real life. Women almost always judge their body and that of other women much more harshly than men, and have unrealistic expectations too. They learn as girls to get approval from others by the way they look, and they learn this when very young; boys traditionally get approval by what they do, not how they look .
Your partner certainly does not have perfect body so why must you? Even if you are not totally happy with your body, wishing it was somehow different, you need to be able to look at and touch it, and enjoy the pleasure it can give you. Despite how you feel it looks, with all its imperfections, it is still very capable of giving you pleasure, if you allow it to. The more pleasure you allow you body to give you, the more you will find that you like your body. An orgasmic woman is going to feel better about her body than a woman who does not experience orgasm.