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If after sex a woman did not have an orgasm, even though she wanted to, she needs to communicate this to her partner. The couple needs to address ways of preventing this in the future, when possible. Perhaps during or after dinner the next day the woman can ask her partner if they can “discuss” their prior night’s sexual experience. She can then explain how she wanted to have an orgasm but was not able to, and then explain why. She needs to be sensitive of her partner’s feelings, but be honest never the less. Once she has presented her side, she needs to ask her partner to present theirs. Both need to ask questions until they understand what each is saying. Once they both know both sides of the situation, and not before, they can consider possible solutions. It may simply be a case where her partner did not know she wanted them to stimulate her longer but were willing had they known, or they were simply too tired to continue. It may also be a case where they do not know how to stimulate her to orgasm and she needs to teach them. They may need to discuss the possibility that she needs and/or wants to masturbate if this situation should occur again. If a woman does not communicate her desire for orgasm to her partner, she will likely find her desires are never fulfilled.

When Orgasm Becomes a Barrier to Pleasure

Couples need to be open to the idea that orgasm can be a barrier to sexual pleasure. Couples often see orgasm as the red light of sex, the signal to stop. Both partners go for as long as the light is green, meaning orgasm has not occurred. That means any sexual pleasure only takes place prior to and during orgasm. What if both partners have an orgasm within five minutes? Compare that to a couple where one or both have trouble reaching orgasm and they engage in sex for thirty to sixty minutes. Which couple has the greatest potential for experiencing sexual pleasure? Surprisingly, not the couple who experiences orgasm quickly, if at all. Orgasm is like a fireworks show, dazzling while it lasts but always over too soon. Do not make orgasm the sole goal of sex or intimacy.