Are You Ready to be a Parent?

Thursday, October 2, 2008 13:50
Posted in category First Time

Any person who desires to engage in intercourse should first ask himself or herself if they want to have a child with their partner. This applies to all women, and men, of reproductive age. Becoming pregnant is NOT a “miracle” for the vast majority of teens and women. Most teens and women are VERY fertile and become pregnant easily. If a teen has started having menstrual periods, she can become pregnant and is likely to do so if she allows sperm to come in contact with her vulva or vagina, if she is not using birth control. There are women and teens that become pregnant the very first time they have intercourse, and on rare occasions even girls who have never had intercourse become pregnant. Even when birth control is used correctly, which the inexperienced person is less likely to do, there is still a chance of pregnancy. No form of birth control is one hundred percent effective. If you know you do not want to have a baby and that having one would have an adverse affect on your life, you may want to choose not to engage in intercourse with your partner. In general, women in school, up through college, should view pregnancy as very undesirable. If you do not want to have a child, you are perhaps better off not engaging in intercourse.

Who Should be the First?

Which sexual partner should a teen or woman chooses to have intercourse with for the first time? That depends on the individual. A long-term partner is a good choice. You do not need to love them or be married to them, but you should be good friends who trust and respect each other. You should enjoy being together and hopefully you are able to express your thoughts and feeling with them freely. You should be able to envision the relationship lasting years versus days or months. This is because sex is a learning process that takes time and communication. Before you get to the point in the sexual relationship where you consider intercourse you should have already spent a lot of time developing your basic sexual skills together. You should already enjoy sex together. Teens and women should choose the sexual partner they have intercourse with for the first time with caution, if you are not sure they are the right one, they’re not. Even if they are the right one, it does not mean you HAVE to either.