What NOT to Say

Monday, June 22, 2009 0:00
Posted in category Attract Women

When you first meet a woman, you want to give her your best impression. When you read Chapter 3 What Women Want you learned the importance of a good first impression. This is when you want to portray your most attractive qualities. You don’t want to be rude, obnoxious, or degrading in front of a woman you are interested in. Do not talk about old girlfriends, do not make rude or sexual comments, and don’t criticize her or put her down. A woman won’t respond well to a man who is rude to her.
The fastest way to get rejected is to give a woman no attention or to give her negative attention. She needs to feel relaxed and open around a man if she is going to go out with him. Remember that you want to get along with a woman you are interested in. You need her to feel comfortable around you. If she is feeling threatened or insulted she will not be open to your advances. Never insult her, belittle her, or hurt her. This may sound obvious, but never ever do these things if you want to keep talking to a woman. If you insult her, she will immediately form a negative opinion of you and become defensive. Your chances with her are non-existent if you don’t show her respect.

Never look for pity love. Don’t tell her a sob story about how your dog is sick, or about how you just got dumped. Women don’t respect a man who looks for pity love. In her eyes, you are trying to use an unfortunate circumstance to get into her bed. Women have no patience for this behavior. Women also don’t have patience for pick-up lines like “Do you come here often?” A woman wants to feel that you are interested in her, not just any woman.

In addition, you should never say negative things about yourself. Use this time to show her all you have to offer. You want her to be attracted to you. Never verbalize submission – don’t apologize, don’t whine, don’t complain, and don’t criticize yourself or what you do. If she asks you what you do for a living, never say, “Oh, I’m just a _____.” By using the word “just” you are telling her that you aren’t proud of what you do. She will get the impression that you lack confidence, and she will see this as a negative characteristic. You have to be relaxed and confident when you talk to a woman. You want her to see your positive traits so that she will be interested in getting to know you better.