The Long Road To Enlightenment

Saturday, April 26, 2008 4:42
Posted in category Female Sexuality

I got my wits back and settled down. No longer was I interested in revenge. I simply wanted to live a fulfilling life.
I knew what that Bad Boy was doing when he worked the women. I wanted to have the same effect on women, but I didn’t want to do it by taking advantage of a woman’s vulnerabilities. I wanted to do it by empowering her strengths.
I started by reading divorce recovery books. I read as many as I could.
That got me interested in books about relationships. I read tons of them.
It started to become apparent to me that my relationship with my wife had been doomed from the beginning. Basically, as it turns out, she had low self esteem.
Even though she had the perfect life, and was treated like a queen, she did not have the sense of deservedness enough to appreciate it. In fact, it was against what she believed that she deserved. She honestly believed that she deserved to be treated poorly. And thus, she sabotaged what she had with me.
So, basically, it was all my fault! I had chosen wrong!
That’s right. I had only married her because she was so smoking hot.
That was the first step to recovery. I assumed responsibility for my lot in life.
Because of what I had been through, I worked hard to devise a way to choose the correct women, which has since served me well.
At the same time, I realized what that Bad Boy was doing. He was preying on the insecurities of low self esteem women.
“Women need constant doubt.” “Never let her think she has you.” That will certainly keep a low self esteem woman on her toes. Low self esteem women are always chasing what they can’t have. But a high self esteem woman will tire of that. A high self esteem woman
wants to get to the point where she can enjoy having her man. If she can’t, she’ll move on.
“She must always be jealous of you.” True for preying on the insecurities of low self esteem women. Very bad for high self esteem women. There are much better ways to have the occasional “healthy” jealousy that keeps a high quality woman sharp.
“Always remain interesting and challenging to her.” Agreed. But there are healthy ways to do this.
“Always keep strife in the relationship.” Wrong! That will attract low self esteem women. It will repel high quality women.
“Be possessive of her. She must feel owned.” Very bad! High quality women do NOT want to be “owned.” I will later explain the correct “occasional” context in which this is actually a good thing, and very powerful.
“Never let her look at another man.” “Keep other men away from her.” Bad Boys are very insecure paranoid men who know that other Bad Boys are always trying to steal his woman away. But in actuality, such mind set will repel the high quality women. And in reality, there is no need!
“Show her more excitement than any other man has.” “Sexually fulfill her, and then some.” Agreed. Most definitely. And I have gone MUCH farther!
“Never let her feel she fully satisfies you.” WRONG! In fact, for high quality women, I will show you that in fact you want to show her just how MUCH she satisfies you, and why that is so powerful!
“Know her weaknesses and play them when needed.” That is just so fucking stupid! Typical of the low self esteem Bad Boy.
I have devised much more rewarding ways to keep a high self esteem woman excited about the relationship, and in fact, how to bring out her inner SLUT!
And since I was back in the dating scene again, I wanted to be a memorable lover for the women that I was meeting and maximally
enjoy the experiences. So I read all the books about sexuality and being a better lover.
Unfortunately, they were somewhat disappointing.
On the weekends that the kids were at their mother’s, I would go to the night clubs.
At the time I was 36, and felt old and used up. But I began to discover that some of the young women found me attractive. I started dating a 19 year old woman who had gotten in the night club using a fake ID.
Unfortunately, she was not having orgasms. I was making love to her like I had made love to my wife for many years. I realized soon that that was not working on the new women.
Later she started dating a Bad Boy. One night she and I ran into each other and I asked her how things were going. She was happy to report that her new boyfriend had given her her first orgasm!
Damn it! A Bad Boy had beaten me again!
I decided that that would never happen again.
I read more books on sexuality and being a better lover. I purchased educational videos. I listened to audios. There may have been one paragraph in each book worth quoting, but otherwise they were all the same old stuff rehashed.
I decided to try stuff myself and figure out what really works.
I started dating a 22 year old woman. She also had never had an orgasm. She had only been with one man before. They had been together for a year, and no doubt he had tried everything on her.
So I just took my time finding what would feel good for her. With my middle finger I searched for her “g” spot, like all the sexuality books recommended, but I received no response from her.
Then I decided to slide my finger in as far along the front wall of her vagina as I could. I curled the tip of my finger and pressed hard against the front wall. She immediately responded to this.
After continuing this for a few minutes, I watched the face of this beautiful woman while she experienced her very first orgasm.
I decided that I was going to be my own sexuality teacher.
I gave more women their first orgasm.
I converted women who had never masturbated in their life, into masturbating maniacs.
I turned women who insisted that they could only have one orgasm, into multi-orgasmic come machines.
And interestingly, I later came to realize that I had actually benefited most from the education I received when I was writing my masters thesis in Electrical Engineering on Artificial Neural Networks.
As computer engineers, we looked to the human brain as an alternative computing architecture. It did things seemingly effortlessly that we could not get computers to do.
We read papers by neurologists. They quoted papers by psychiatrists and psychologists. That got me very interested in psychology.
I also learned some neural physiology and was starting to form an understanding of how the brain processes sexuality.
So I started to look at the power in the psychology and neural physiology of female sexuality. That’s when things started getting very interesting…