Don’t encourage people to laugh at you

Wednesday, October 1, 2008 12:18
Posted in category Seduction

Don’t encourage people to laugh at you. Instead show them a guy who can help them laugh at life. A guy who can stir their imagination. Forget the idea about self-deprecating humor helping people relate to you and thus like you more. They will feel comfortable around you but your personality will have no edge. The problem with being the opposite – low-key, is that it makes it much harder to work groups and the girls who are really attractive.
It is good that you have a natural ability to be the center of attention. You should stick with that. It will help you become a powerful artist.
Just keep in mind, it is easy to be the center of attention being a goof. It is much more challenging to be in the spotlight with interesting, funny material. That is something you will have to develop. Also, you don’t want to be seen as trying. Have an easy grace about yourself. Always look relaxed.

About Dancing
Dancing is really not a smart thing to do in most situations but if you must here is the way. Forget the grinding. Girls grind with a lot of guys. It means nothing. What you want is hand contact. Take a girls hand and do a few turns with her this can really be done to any music. lead her. This will set you apart from all the horn dogs trying to grind on her hip. Put her hand on your abs and turn. lift her arms up over her head and keno both sides of her entire body top to bottom. when the song changes, lead her by the hand off the dance floor and to a quiet corner. keep keno up and seduce.

General Observations
If you approach a girl and you say things which are insightful and seductive, that is good. But if she ask you a question and you reply with something insightful and seductive then you will really bowl her over.
Don’t resent girls throwing up questions or hoops.
I came to realize this on stage. So much of what we do as performers is set an audience up to provoke a response from us. This has a spontaneous feel and is very powerful even though it was all planned. If she asks if you have a girlfriend it is an opportunity for you to hit one out of the park. Look upon it as a good thing. Matter of fact, try to “trick” her into asking you that specific thing. Then have a really great answer. You should do this with any and all questions she could ask you and maybe some uncommon ones which you can “trick” her into asking you. Now what I say when a girl asks that question is: “To be my girlfriend is a very prestigious thing. A girl has to qualify. I have a test.” Of course the chick wants to know what my test is. So let her take it. It is great. The last part of the test is kissing skills related. Try that answer. Funny how you don’t ever really answer the question but by the time they realize that, they don’t care.