Communicating that you are Qualifying them

Wednesday, October 1, 2008 12:19
Posted in category Seduction

Most guys work this backwards. In general, with women you just met, you want to make statements. Avoid asking many questions. The exception are questions which you ask for screening purposes. These are tests which you make up for her to try to pass. This accomplishes a few things. It shows you have distinguishing taste.
It tells her that she will have to have more than just a great body to get with you and it puts her in the proper dynamic of working to garner your affections.
You can be direct or subtle. But either way they should be difficult even to the point where she can not answer. That is right – have her fail some test questions.
The questions should require work on her part either because they require imagination, a sense of humor or just plain stretching her values to meet yours.
Here are a few examples and follow ups:
1.”If you could spend your life doing one thing, what would it be?”
She will probably say something lame. You follow up by telling her about your passion in life. You give her an example to try to live up to and demonstrate how well spoken and thoughtful, passionate about your own life you are.
2.”I like a woman who can cook well. What is your best dish?”
Wether she comes up with something or not you tell her your favorite is ‘whatever’. Mine happens to be lasagna. So I tell girls how much I like all the gooey cheese and noodles, etc.. If she doesn’t enjoy and like to talk about food I usually walk away. I love eating.
3. “If we were a couple and I wanted to hang out with my friends to 2 am. How would you feel about that?”
Here you are point blank telling her the treatment you expect and holding a hoop for her to jump through. If you end up having a LTR with her, she will remember that she agreed not to complain when you stay out late. Of course, make up your own questions based on what you like from a girl. But just make sure they are not too easy and that they are interestingly creative questions.

Put a price on yourself
There is a lot of talk on this board about routines and stories, etc. These are all ways of demonstrating your worth. But consider there is also another way.
And that is to put a price on yourself. Of course it is impractical to wear a price sticker around on your forehead. So how you do this, is by putting prices on aspects of your personality. For instance, if a girl/group gets wind of what I do for a living they will ask me to tell a joke. Well, I don’t entertain anybody for free. So I ask what they are going to do for me. They ask me what I want. I tell the girl I want a back rub. If she gives me one, I tell a joke. If she doesn’t, I don’t tell the joke. If she starts to give me a lame rub then I tell her to rub in specific ways or I won’t tell the joke. After the joke, of course I turn her around and rub her back or sometimes I keep her rubbing and then I get another girl and rub her back. I have gotten whole back rub circles going in clubs before.
You can do this in many situations. Even in silly ways. A girl asked me what kind of car I drove. I told her I could not tell her. I would have to show her and I could not do that even until she decided she was going to be nice to me.
She asked me how she was supposed to be nice to me. I told her she would have to describe how beautiful my hands were. Well she did indeed do just that, although in a half-sarcastic tone (I do have nice hands, by the way – use lotion after every hand wash) Anyway, I take her out and show her my Neon. Ha!” The point is, just look at that excellent wash and wax I put on today.” Of course, we then got in and smooched. Now sometimes the girl is just not willing to pay the price. That is where you hold firm and do not just give it to her. Because, if you just give in and give it to her free then she will not value you. Better if you stick to your price. Even if you really want to give it to her free. For instance, say you tell her you are taking a masseuse class and she wants a sample. And let’s say you tell her she has to buy you a drink first. If she doesn’t do that then you do not massage her. Even though, you probably want to.

Stick to your guns on that and you will set yourself apart from the other guys for sure. It is like walking into a car dealers’ show room and seeing a bright red convertible. You read the sticker and it is much more than you can afford. In your mind that car has only gained in value because you cannot afford it. Anyway, if a girl asks you for anything, consider trading for it as a means of insisting on your value. Also consider building routines around the idea of selling your thoughts. As you talk, tell her you cannot talk about a certain subject. Let her want it and ask for it and then trade for it, “I tell you what. You tell me an intimate sexy secret and if it is juicy enough then I’ll tell you what you want to know.” It is also worth mentioning that you must make sure that what you are trading for is of real value to you and not something like her phone number or anything lame like that.