Emotional intimacy is the incentive
Monday, October 20, 2008 11:14You will say to her: “Oh Baby, it makes me feel so close to you when you feel this pleasure that I am giving you. The more pleasure you feel, the closer it makes me feel to you.”
She will follow your commands to accept the pleasure because she wants you to feel even closer to her.
Researchers at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands have used brain scans of women to show that the areas of the brain involved in fear and anxiety are deactivated during orgasm. This comes as no surprise to us. It is a requirement for orgasm. She must feel safe, and she must feel reassurance in order to have an orgasm.
Most women who have not yet had an orgasm are women who are unable to surrender to the pleasure that they are feeling in their body. That could be due to a number of reasons, but it usually goes back to some fear or anxiety around sexuality. So you must make it such that she continues to feel safe and reassured with you.
Even before she gets to the point of feeling any fear or anxiety, you must make her feel safe and assured. Say to her: “Baby, I love giving you pleasure. I feel so close to you. I am here for you Baby. I am here for you to feel safe with me. Feel reassured that I am here for you Baby.”
Then continue the stimulation.
As she starts getting close, she will start feeling a loss of control. This can be very scary to a woman who has not yet had an orgasm. You must distract her from her own concerns about the intense pleasure that she is feeling that is making her feel a loss of control. You do this by giving her a task to perform.


