Penis Enlargement

It’s taken me half a lifetime and the writing of five books, all of which deal at least in part with sexuality, to appreciate the role masturbation plays in our lives, or might play if we weren’t so troubled about this simple, private act.
Here is the most natural thing in the world – our own [...]

Historians are always looking for a new lens through which to view and understand the past. The modern history of popular sentiment toward masturbation offers a fascinating perspective on our culture. Having an idea of the depth of feeling against masturbation in general and female masturbation in particular, we may better understand why women have [...]

Could the full-voiced women in this book give up the joy of masturba-tion? There is always some risk. Could men? Never. The fact that men masturbate is a given, as obvious as the penis between their legs. Mother may not like it when her little boy touches his penis; she tsk-tsks and takes his hand [...]

Masturbation is a great teacher.
Alas, it’s one I did not have growing up. No one I knew admitted to masturbation or discussed it. Confused and often incorrect as our ideas on sex with boys were, the language and vocabulary of sex all by ourselves didn’t exist. Nor do I remember any punishment or words spoken [...]

Men’s deals with mother influence and distort their sexual lives too, but they don’t demand the sacrifice of masturbation, of the freedom to choose whether to touch themselves or not. Indeed, masturbation was one of the best tools the man had as a boy in learning emotional separation from mother.
He may begin life in love [...]

As for the girl being held and kissed in the moonlight, how is she to know that part of what she is feeling is sexual? Nothing has ever happened to her to help her single out, isolate the sexual feeling from all the other emotions and sensations racing through her adolescent mind and body. She [...]

This is what the sex education textbooks call it. “I wanted to be swept away,” a sentence heard so often from women with unintended pregnancies that it has become the name of the malady.
The women whose fantasies fill this book sound like a new generation, one that is immune to the Swept Away Phenomenon. Many [...]

It is important to distinguish the three levels of change: attitudes change most easily. Behavior follows at a slower pace. But our deep, unconscious feelings about what is right and wrong require generations to change, if they change at all.
We angrily deny that our own grown-up sexual behavior has anything to do with mother. As [...]

What makes learning to masturbate so difficult late in life is that we have been raised to believe that the area between our legs is untouchable, dirty. We have come to loathe the sight and smell of our genitals, which are to be touched only in the process of wiping ourselves clean. It is an [...]

You, the women who have encouraged me to continue thinking and writing about sex, tell me how much strength and self-knowledge you gain from your sexuality, and you say you understand the importance of masturbation. “A person’s masturbation seems so, well, ‘secret,’ “ one of you writes me. “It’s about the most intimate thing one [...]

ndividual women have always tried to break out of the traditional constraints placed on women’s sexuality, but in so doing, they did not feel any kinship or solidarity with femininity as a whole. They were adventuresses, scorning other women as tame and submissive. They may have been courageous, but they were alone in their desires, [...]

Ah, the joy of seduction! To take a man, lay him down and you on top, orchestrate his sounds of slow surrender with the shifting of your weight, the forbidden, dirty words whispered in your female/mother voice, watch his gradual loss of control – no, control his loss of control – until ultimately, with the [...]

My fantasies are, I think, particularly liberating, as they concern being assertive. First information: Age – 29; job – middle manager for investment brokerage firm; marital status – single; education – MBA.
My fantasies really started as I moved up the corporate ladder and competed with men. With my MBA, job offers were no problem. I [...]

On impulse and feeling as though I had nothing to lose, I gave my fantasy to my fantasy man to read.
Before giving it to him I explained that it was only my fantasy, and hoped that he would not be angry or upset with me after reading it. With a big, wide grin on his [...]

I am 22 years old, a college graduate (business), single, divorced al-ready, but living happily with my boyfriend.
Just about ten minutes ago I settled myself at my desk, scooched down in my chair, put my right arm down by my side and under the desk, pulled my blue jeans skirt over to the right side [...]

My strongest reactions to your book Men in Love came when I read the last chapter – I suddenly started crying. I was surprised since I am a psychiatric social worker with many years of therapy, etc. Why was I crying?
Well, for one thing, I am furious at having been a virgin so long myself. [...]

I would like to explain some of the details of my job as it is richly in-volved in the major part of my sex life and fantasies.
I’m a 27-year-old white, college-educated female. Although I care for my husband and we are relatively happy, I consider him just a friend. He is a chemist, and although [...]

I am 25, single, live alone and have had few relationships with men, none of which have been good, and I’ve never orgasmed with a man unless I did it (masturbated during sex). I have much hope, though, that I will get into a caring, mutual, trusting, fun relationship that will be sexually fulfilling and [...]

I am 21 years old. My steady boyfriend and I are both third year university students. We have been seeing each other for one year and plan to be married within the next three years.
To begin with, our sex life is wonderful. We have sex as often as we can. To tell you the truth, [...]

I’m 34; married thirteen years; with 3 daughters. I’m a survey technician (land surveying) and I work exclusively with men. I’ve found that macho men are indeed rare and that most men want to be liked. I’ve found that a warm smile and a word or two melt down the most tough “macho.” I like [...]

I just read my first book of yours, Men in Love. What sweet, sensual beings the men appear through their fantasies, when they seem worse prudes than women in reality.
I’m 32, white, middle class, and live in my hometown, a city in the Southwest. I have a master’s degree, a dull, secure professional job. I [...]

I’m a 25-year-old black girl, middle class and single. I spent a wonderful summer with Derek, a man a year older than I. He’s going to be married now, but I still think about him a lot. I sometimes fantasize about having sex with him in unusual places.
At the Metropolitan Opera House, in the parking [...]

I am a WASP female, 33 years old, an only child, with classes in psy-chology. I am five feet six with a pretty face, an okay body and very nice legs. I’ve never been married or even been asked. I’ve had only one lover (in secret) because my family (conservative) is very much against sex [...]

I’ve had sexual fantasies as long as I can remember, and had my first memorable arousal while playing with the water hose at age four. From that pleasant surprise I progressed to water play in the tub, but was aware from the start that my parents would disapprove. They are still very prudish and give [...]

A man enjoys lying on a woman’s breast. Being held, suckled, even ba¬bied, the staunchest man may relax his iron control and allow himself to be lulled back to an infantile time that has a special, primitive sexual pleasure. A woman would like to hold him longer, enjoying from her side the thrill of power, [...]

I am 43 years old, in the process of divorcing my husband of twenty-two years, and the mother of three children.
I have a master’s degree in a health profession and am working on a sec¬ond master’s in neurosciences (behavioral-experimental psych.). A large area of interest is in journalism, photography, graphic arts.
I seldom masturbate anymore, see [...]

I’m 19, a college psychology major and honor student, fairly attractive (I get a lot of second looks, whistles, and propositions) but not stunning. I plan to be a sex therapist and I’m also a feminist, but I believe men have much to gain also by pursuing equality for the sexes, and I don’t like [...]

I’m 30, single, and crazy about men.
About four years ago, I had a boyfriend who liked to wear my night-gowns to bed. I enjoyed pleasing him by cooperating, and bought him his own in a size large enough to fit him well. It also sparked my own latent interest in the “kinky” – it was [...]

I am a 26-year-old housewife with a science degree, two children and a husband I adore. My husband is a petroleum geologist and often spends months on and at an oil-rig site.
Recently I wanted desperately to have sex with my husband, but he was away, so I sat down and wrote him a play-by-play of [...]

A few years ago I was, literally, a different person. I like to think my story is a metaphor for what so many women face today. My story starts with me as a teaching nun, yes, a nun! I was teaching in a Catholic junior high. I had a strict Catholic upbringing and the decision [...]

How did women keep themselves small for so long, lower their voices, shorten their steps, compress their emotional selves into the stereotypical Nice Girl?
Yes, I can understand the temperamentally quiet, undemanding woman finding this livable, but what of her more demonstrative, assertive sister, who would rather lead than follow?
Since I was there in an earlier [...]

I’ve been called an enigma, and though it makes me feel defensive I think it’s true. I am a hodgepodge of a woman, 34 years old, following her own plan at her own pace. There’s nothing wrong with it but it bewilders the people around me. I understand their bewilderment. I buried myself deep within [...]

I have been fantasizing since I was 6. I’ll be 20 next month. For a short while (my senior year in high school) I was trying to rededicate my life to Christ, and I was having a really difficult time reconciling my nightly pil¬low-between-the-legs escapades with my search for higher spirituality. Then I decided to [...]

I am a 19-year-old college student. I am single and I live at home with my mother and father, two sisters, and one brother. I had intercourse for the first time when I was 13 years old and I have had only fourteen differ¬ent sexual partners since then. It seems that in the past year [...]

I am a 20-year-old junior at a private Catholic university, fourth in a family of five children, and the essence of innocence and purity to my fam¬ily and most of my friends. Recently at school, while my friends and I were all a little drunk, we started to talk about our sexual experiences. Everyone was [...]

I’m 18 and single, a virgin, a college student, and live at home. You might say that I’ve lived a sheltered life – not strict, though. My mother died when I was 6 years old and my father raised me and my brothers and sisters by himself. My dad wasn’t overly strict, though we all [...]

I’m 19, soon to be 20, living at home, white, middle class, with one year of college behind me. I come from a broken household (both parents remar¬ried), living under my mother’s roof. Under my mother’s roof there is a lot of unspoken sexual guilt combined with my mother’s outspoken “no.” Since I was 17, [...]

I am 21 and single. The way I was raised, I always was (and still am) in¬timidated by men and the (apparent) freedoms they have in their lives. Re¬cently I’ve realized the differences and similarities between my mother and myself. She and her older sister raised their children under the pretext that they should be [...]

I love reading your books before I go to sleep. It totally relaxes me and sometimes creates quite pleasant dreams.
I am a single, 20-year-old female. I was raised a Catholic, and I still at-tend church when I can, yet I don’t believe in everything the Roman Catho¬lic church does (like the ruling about surrogate mothers, [...]

I am 45 years old, have been happily married for twenty-one years and have two children, 19 and 14. I met my husband at the age of 22 years, and he was the first and only man I have ever had sexual relations with. I had been frigid all my life (it took me many [...]

The angry voices of the women in this section are long overdue, and I welcome their appearance, these embittered females – yes, even the sadists. It is time we acknowledged that some women are as mean and cruel as some men. Continuing the fiction that women are the loving ones while men alone are the [...]

Sometimes a book is published, in this case a review of a book, that says it all. Nothing much came of Love, Envy and Competition Between Women you probably never heard of it – but the book, along with the woman who gave it a positive review, waved a bright red flag at me. Speaking [...]

I am a 26-year-old single female, raised by my parents to think sex was not for nice girls. I have had limited sexual experience, and feel a certain anger toward men. I am a heterosexual and enjoy looking at pictures of the nude male or taking my own.
My fantasy has always been to dominate my [...]

Let me start with a brief autobiography. I am 27 years old, single, (but not for long), have three years of college, am white, Catholic, and work in the medical field. I was born in San Francisco to immigrant parents. My father died when I was 3 years old, and my mother never remarried or [...]

I am 23, single, and have lived alone for the past two years, since moving out of my lover’s place. I do not remember anything sexual when I was a child. I lost my virginity with my best friend, and he with me, when we were 15. We had a wonderful time trying to figure [...]

I have two special fantasies but first I’ll tell you about myself. I am 16 and still a virgin. I am proud I am a virgin. A friend “spent” hers on a piece of trash and I’m not about to do the same. Still, there is a certain guy who I would like to lose [...]

I am 29 years old, married happily with four children ages 9 to 2.
I’ve never shared my fantasies with anyone, not even my husband. I re¬gard my fantasies as mine – my own little world apart from reality. If I shared them with my husband, I feel they would not be mine to control and [...]

I’m a 21-year-old college girl with Old World parents. My mother doesn’t approve of my dating an American guy, not even a college student; as a result, I’ve never had a relationship with a guy, or even enjoyed a guy’s company. I wonder if I’ll ever be able to.
There is this American guy who sits [...]

Here goes re my background: Age – 22. Schooling – high school; I took courses in child care, home etc., etc. Marital status – single. Employment – I have had many, many brief jobs. Right now I run a nursery at church, and I baby-sit for two families.
Other notes: I am the oldest of three [...]

I am a 21-year-old married woman from a lower-middle-class back-ground. I have had three and a half years of college and limited office work experience. I am now unemployed, being seven and a half months pregnant with my first child.
I was raised in an environment where any form of sexuality was re-pressed in a completely [...]

I am tired of hiding my feelings. I call it my Secret Side.
I am 25, three years out of college, majored in art education; Girl Friday to the vice-president of product development in a small company; single with no dependants; never been married; overweight.
My sexual fantasies are usually acted out in a manner of which [...]

I’ve always worried that my fantasies (which I wasn’t conscious of hav¬ing until my early 20s) were not “typical” of what I imagined most people’s were. This is because I derive about 95 percent of my sexual excitement from the man’s excitement instead of my own. Most of my fantasies re¬volve around seeing a man, [...]

I’ve read sexy novels since I was 13 or 14. I was never really interested in sex with someone (I didn’t think I’d ever find anyone who cared) until I was 16 or 17, when I met a guy who liked me and was a special person. I’m really an attractive woman, but in high [...]

I’m 21, a college senior and student teacher. I have just one gorgeous fantasy-into-reality.
One of the brattiest of my students is a 15-year-old boy. He makes life miserable for the girls, flirting with and teasing them. I didn’t like him and had to speak to him often, but for some strange reason he attracts me [...]

No chapter on women’s power over men would be complete without mention of the exhibitionist, she who draws men’s eyes to her body and holds them, captures them, controlling what they are feeling until that time when she alone decides the show is over.
When I began writing books twenty years ago, the scientific word from [...]

I am female, 28, a college graduate (though currently a housewife with two children) and married for almost six years.
My sexual experiences started at age 16 years 1 month. It was a total disaster – Mark was only a year older than I and no more experienced. He only got his penis in an inch [...]

One evening, while I was reading Men in Love, my husband asked what I was so engrossed in. I guess he had seen the smile occasionally cross my face and the twinkle in my eye when I read a fantasy that particularly ap¬pealed to me. We took the chance to really talk about our sex [...]

I get off on inadvertent and “innocent” exhibitionism, and almost all of my fantasies revolve around someone viewing some of my naked charms and being driven to a frenzy of lust at the sight.
My real life is something out of every woman’s dreams. First and fore-most, I’ve been married for ten wonderful years to a [...]

I am a good-looking 42-year-old divorced woman with two children in college. I was married for twenty years prior to my divorce. My first sexual encounters were when I was 5 or 6 and it was a hot summer day – my mother did not have us wear panties that summer because of the heat. [...]

I am 24 years old and a virgin; not by choice, just circumstance. I live at home with my two younger sisters and my parents due to lack of a perma¬nent teaching job and lack of money. I do not have a boyfriend at the mo¬ment, but there are people I occasionally go out with. [...]

I am 23, white, single, oldest of five children. I have a BA in psychology and work in the executive world, and I’m quite obese.
I fantasize all the time. I masturbate frequently during the week, usually for several hours on my day off. I really didn’t start masturbating until I was 14, after I got [...]

I am a 26-year-old single, second-year medical student. Thought that I’d take another study break tonight and tell you of a frequent sexual fantasy of mine.
Fact: About a year ago, I ran into a man named Ron at a party. I knew him only slightly, and enjoyed chatting with him that night. The drinks were [...]

When I first heard about Men in Love, I thought “Nancy Friday – she’s so Freudian!” And considering all the damage Freud has done to female sexuality with his ridiculous notions about vaginal orgasms and penis envy, I was reluctant to read your book at first. But my curiosity and desire to better understand the [...]

For several years now, I have enjoyed undressing in front of my bedroom window. An older man next door employs young men, age 16 to 28 to do odd jobs for him. They are always walking by, so I am positive that they notice me.
At 18 my figure is okay. My measurements are 38-25-38, which [...]

“ONLY ANOTHER WOMAN KNOWS”
There is something uniquely satisfying in a woman’s body that cannot be had with a man. As sexually exciting and elegant as a male body may be, it lacks the obvious physical attributes of our first source of love, mother. It isn’t just the breasts: it’s the texture of skin, the [...]

It is a relief and a joy to know I’m not the only woman who has outra-geously sexy fantasies or who masturbates to them regularly. I am 21, mar¬ried almost a year to a man I love very much, with no children (thank God). I model, am considered very pretty, have a high IQ and [...]

I am 28, single but engaged (I’ll be married in September), and hetero-sexual (in practice at least; in my fantasies, however…). I’m originally from the East but have been living in St. Louis for three years. I have a BA from Sweet Briar, a year’s graduate work in psychology at the University of Michigan, and [...]

I’m a 24-year-old lesbian currently living in Japan. I got a degree in Japanese and Asian studies from Vassar, and am currently a translator/ interpreter for a large Japanese company. I have always known I was a lesbian since eighth grade, but never actually had sexual relations with a woman until college. All that stuff [...]

I am a 19-year-old female, presently going to college, single, upper mid¬dle class, heterosexual (I think). I am very preoccupied with sex, think about it a lot, and do it whenever I can. I love to masturbate, even when I have a steady sex partner. Sometimes I think I lean toward being a nymph. Men [...]

I am a lesbian, not bisexual. I don’t hate men in general, but I definitely would not go to bed with a man. I’ve been there, I’m a widow. It’s a case of being brought up not to think sexually. If I had had that freedom I never would have married, I would have just [...]

I am 21 years old, single and heterosexually oriented.
I grew up in a middle-middle-class Canadian family. As an only child I have enjoyed the exclusive attentions of my mother, who has been very generous with her love, concern and time. She is an intelligent, open-minded woman, and I consider myself fortunate that this woman is [...]

I am a high school senior on an exchange program from England. I at-tend what must be a typical suburban American high school consisting of mostly middle-class kids, but it is very different from my all-girls “public” school in Sussex. I come from a middle-class family in the south of Eng¬land. Both my parents are [...]

I am 20 years old and have been married since I was 17. I have never been able to achieve an orgasm during intercourse, and I have been sexu¬ally active since I was 15. I only achieve orgasms while masturbating.
I have a lot of lesbian fantasies. I have never been sucked off by a woman, [...]

I am 21 years old and live with my boyfriend. We have great sex, but I am not able to have orgasms without the help of my wonderful vibrator, which I use at least once daily. I have all kinds of fantasies, but I don’t fan¬tasize while making love with my boyfriend. I usually end [...]

I am a black female. I was married at the age of 16 and had my first child at 17. I am in my early 50s now and I have three children. Two are teenagers.
Besides my husband, I’ve been with only one other man and that was at the age of 14. (By the way, [...]

I am 18. I was born under the triple cusp of Taurus, making me strong-minded, extremely stubborn, highly sensuous, bold, and I guess a bit of an extremist. I’m a fashion model, five feet ten, dark blond hair, green-eyed, full-lipped, and almost full-blooded American raised Italian.
As a young teen, I was curious and completely self-minded [...]

I am 23 years old, Catholic, and came from an upper-middle-class family. I attended parochial school until eighth grade and came away with a whole set of ideas on how the world should be. Although I had a decent upbringing, there were a few things that bothered me. For one, I recently “came out of [...]

I am an attractive, athletic, 31-year-old woman, high school graduate and some college, married for two and one half years, no kids. Presently I’m taking a break from working as a secretary and enjoying being a homemaker and taking exercise and art classes.
I have been masturbating off and on since I was 14. I also [...]

I’m 19 years old, have blond hair, blue eyes, a 36-27-36 figure, weigh about 125-130 pounds, and I’m bisexual, although I’ve only been with a woman once. I’ve been masturbating since I was about 11 years old and I found out the joys of taking a long shower, and my mom’s vibrator.
As for my upbringing: [...]

Freud was the first to document early childhood sexuality, the Oedipal years, roughly from age four to seven. For this “discovery” he was all but ostracized by his profession. Before Freud it had been assumed that there were no sexual stirrings until puberty. No one wanted to think that little four-year-olds have sexual feelings; many [...]

I am a 23-year-old woman, a lecturer and doctoral student at a large Canadian university. So much for real life – now on to sex and sexual fantasy: I have had only four sexual partners, all of them older men, very tradi¬tional, very conventional. Masturbation and orgasm are two things I’ve only discovered over the [...]

I am 19 years old, have one and a half years of college behind me plus a short-term experience in a rock band, am now signed up in the Army and am single.
I’ve been consciously masturbating since 4 years of age. I still do it the same way, and so far it has allowed me [...]

I am a single, bisexual, college graduate, age 23. I was raised, an only child, in a small town by conservative yet lenient and understanding Chris¬tian parents. My parents know of my sexual preference, but our relation¬ship is strong and close anyway.
I call myself bisexual, but this is really a technicality for a society that [...]

I’m a 19 year-old sophomore at a women’s college. I’m very shy, espe¬cially around guys, although I’m reasonably pretty and have a slim body that other girls have always envied.
If men and adolescent boys only knew what dirty minds some girls have! They would feel so much better about their own dirty minds. I fantasize [...]

I have feelings and thoughts of shame that are completely out of my con¬trol these days.
I am 22 and just married one month ago and expecting a baby. I come from a broken family (parents divorced at 16), and I am the only child. As far as my family goes, I had it OK monetarily. [...]

I was reading your book and I started wondering what somebody like me would have to say about sexual fantasies. I’m a senior in social work, have already been professionally employed in a children’s group home as a houseparent and as a counselor for clients in another group home. Have returned part time to college. [...]

I am a 22-year-old college student who has an active sex life. I’m in-volved with a man I plan to marry after graduation (he’s 26), but prior to our relationship, I had many lovers. I’ve always been told I was a good lover, often “the best they’d had,” so I feel sexually confident, but I [...]

I’m a 22-year-old. I’m married, but now separated with two children. I finished school.
My fantasy is to go to bed with a woman. Don’t get me wrong, I love to have sex with men, but I see how good it must feel to a man when he sucks a woman’s nipples and I also want [...]

I am a 19-year-old college student. I have been sexually active since I was 15 years old. I masturbate regularly. I started masturbating when I was about 8 or 9. I used to rub myself against my dog’s penis until I cli¬maxed. I also used to spread butter or mayonnaise around my clitoris and nipples [...]

I’m 19, a high school graduate, saleswoman – notice, not salesperson – and single.
I have been sexually involved with one wonderful man for a year and a half. At this time, he has been in another country for three months, and there is still another three to go.
I have found that thinking about homosexuality in [...]

I’m 16 and will soon be a senior in high school. I have never fucked any¬one but think about it a lot and wonder what it will be like. I masturbate when I’m horny, which is often, and I’m really fascinated (obsessed?) by sex.
I did give a guy head once and I thought it was [...]

I am 22 years old, single and on my own. I have been involved with three women (two of them strictly gay) and one man, with whom I’m presently involved. I don’t actually consider myself homosexual, because I do not prefer women to men. I suppose I like them just as much, although it would [...]

I’m 21 years old, married a little over a year. I’m a housewife and happy with my life. I had my first orgasm about six months ago. For the longest time I was depressed and felt like I could never achieve an orgasm and didn’t enjoy sex all that much. I finally decided to try [...]

Let me tell you about myself before I tell you about my sexual fantasies. I am a 23-year-old woman who recently graduated from college. I grew up in a medium-sized town with my mother and two sisters, both older. Sexu¬ally, I was a late maturer and didn’t have a full growth of hair on my [...]

I am very shy. If my parents were to find out what I think, they would probably disown me and my friends would shun me. When I used to go to my shrink and told him what I am about to tell you, he said it was a “stage I was going through and as [...]

Having suggested that men could learn from these fantasies what it is women want, let me add that it is not by chance that women have left men totally out of these scenarios. It would be a rationalization to say that these women are turning to other women simply because men disappoint them sexually. The [...]

I am a black 22-year-old virgin. Even though I am a virgin, there is noth¬ing I would like better than to have a man’s big hot cock sliding in and out of my wet pussy. I have always been very shy, even though just about eve¬ryone tells me that I am pretty, and I have [...]

I am 23, single, with a strict Catholic upbringing. I have a beautiful fi-ancé whom I adore. I have LOTS of fantasies – many of which include other feminine women. I don’t feel lesbian because I enjoy my man so much and have no desire for a masculine woman, but I do definitely enjoy daydreaming [...]

I am 21, single (and like it that way), am a singer/songwriter/musician, and come from a very strict upbringing. My parents are very young (still in their late 30s), but have a very “fire and brimstone” attitude about premari¬tal sex. But nonetheless, I am a very sexually oriented person and have slept with twenty men [...]

This fantasy keeps me very warm on my nights all alone in the big city. My best friend Laurie and I go to the beach; it’s actually a very special beach, because it’s a nude beach. When we arrive there are very few people around – just dark blue sea, bright blue sky, hot sun, [...]

I am 26 years old, Caucasian, dark blond hair, light blue eyes, single, and a lesbian. I was raised in a family with one brother (four years older than I am), a passive mother and an alcoholic father who was physically and verbally abusive, although the abuse did not include sexual assault.
The following is a [...]

The only fantasy I have is a lesbian fantasy…
Her name is “Stevie” and she is beautiful. She stands in the living room, looking so sexy with her long, curling blond hair, dressed in tight jeans and a blouse that buttons down the front. (She happens to be a dear friend. She has no idea what [...]

I am a college freshman, will be 18 in a few weeks, and am engaged to marry a 28-year-old man of Italian descent whom I love very much. He is the first and only guy I’ve ever slept with. I used to feel sort of deprived you know, here is this world full of gorgeous [...]

I have been married and divorced two times. I am 28 years old. I have a boyfriend now who is four years younger than me. We have a great sex life. He makes me very horny (and satisfies me very much); I love sucking his dick and balls and asshole. He really doesn’t like me [...]

Your writing allowed me to open my subconscious self, as I’ve been in¬clined to suppress my physical desires in the presence of others. I always thought I was the only female who masturbated by means of a running bathtub water faucet. What a wonderful awakening.
I am 23 years old, single. I come from a broken [...]

Your books have made me realize I am normal! I masturbate a lot, al-ways to orgasm and usually with my fingers (once with a candle and a few times with those lovely fat pickling cucumbers!). I always fantasize when I masturbate – never have when I’m with a man. I am single, 25, white and [...]

I have found that most younger liberated women are simply astounded to discover that we older women without partners not only think about, fanta¬size about, dream about having more idyllic sex before life ends, but also that some of us pleasure ourselves by masturbating, reading Playgirl and Anaï s Nin, and watching cablevision’s steamier early-morning [...]

The Cry for More
I’ve always suspected that women have richer, wilder fantasies than men… Men are only beginning to perceive the true nature of woman’s be¬ing. They have created a false image of her. She is neither an angel nor a bitch in heat. If she is no longer an enigma, she is certainly [...]

My own fantasies tend to fall here; they have always centered around de¬fying authority, taking an enormous risk by secretly stepping outside the role of Nice Girl, by which I still define myself. My fantasies play with guilt like a spool of silken thread that strings out my pleasure and teases me with ecstacy; I [...]

I had my first orgasm when I was 2½ . I know this because we moved house shortly thereafter and the fantasy which gave rise to this thrilling discovery occurred in our first house. It was a tiny dark apartment in the depths of an industrial city. I had once seen cows in a field [...]

I am 20 years old, masturbate several times every day, and have abso¬lutely no trouble at all bringing myself to fantastic orgasms in minutes. But I have two very close girlfriends who not only don’t masturbate at all, but change the subject every time I try to talk about it. Neither one has ever had [...]

I am 24 and have been married for three years. Like most of the women in your book My Secret Garden, I have kept my fantasies to myself. Be¬cause they are my own personal Secret Garden, I want to share them only with you. After reading your book, I am relieved to know that I [...]

I’m lying here in my bed on a sensual Saturday afternoon – sensual be¬cause your book has me quite aroused.
I’m a tall, long-legged blond woman of 31 years old. I have quite an ac¬tive fantasy life, yet I find it difficult to meet men I’d really like to fuck. Usually my lovers have been foreign [...]

I’m 22, single, white and Catholic. Right now I’m a junior in nursing school. I’ve also gone through two years of college. I prefer men, but do have fantasies about women though I’ve never been with one. I do think, given the chance, I would go for it. Let me also say now that I [...]

I am 18 and met my boyfriend in the fifth grade, and immediately we fell in love. This past June we both graduated from high school. We have been together the whole time, and he’s never dated or screwed anyone else, and nor have I. I was his first and he was my first. The [...]

I am 19 years of age, lost my virginity at 18 (at college), am single (but seeing a wonderful guy), and politically conservative. I put that last part in because it seems odd to me to be conservative in one aspect and to be so liberal with the thoughts that go on inside of my [...]

In this chapter, women say things that shake the patriarchal system at its foundations. “I feel that women are much hornier than men and desire sex more,” says Sophie, setting the tone in the 1980s for women’s acceptance of their true sexual appetites. Whatever time in history you may be reading
these words, remember that sexual [...]

I feel that women are much hornier than men and desire sex more. I am mostly speaking from my own desires, but from talking with female friends I get the impression they are also very horny, and quite frankly do not get enough sex from their husbands or lovers. My own husband has stated that [...]

I’m a professional with a master’s degree. I’m a petite, blue-eyed blonde in my mid-30s (thirty something). I’m single by choice. Childhood experiences:
My earliest sexual remembrances were around the age of 4.1 had older cousins who would play “house” or “doctor.” I would watch them as they looked at and touched each other. When I [...]

I am an unmarried 23-year-old legal secretary and aspiring writer. I have a degree in broadcasting and am working on a second degree in creative writing. For the past two months, I’ve been working at an environmental law office.
My parents were silent concerning sex as I was growing up, and I inter-preted this lack of [...]

I’m 32, married with two kids. I was married at 15, my husband was 18. We have lived all over the Southeastern United States, as well as three years in Europe while my husband was in the service. We came back to the Midwest, where we were raised. My husband is a skilled worker making [...]

I am 23 years old and a law student at a very prestigious school. This letter may ramble a lot – I’m trying to unscramble the history of my fantasies.
I discovered my clitoris at 12, but until I was 16,1 only masturbated by rubbing my pubic area against a wadded-up pair of panties or the [...]

My sexual fantasies have begun to change lately, and I welcome the op¬portunity to explore the changes.
I am a 37-year-old woman, married and a graduate student. My husband and I have been together for six years. When we got married, we had it all going for us – mental, physical and emotional rapport. Our sex [...]

I’m 27 years old, and have been married for a year and a half. My hus¬band is 24. Our marriage is very satisfying for me in every way except for sex. Don’t get me wrong, he and I make love beautifully – when we get around ‘to it. Our average is 1.5 times a week, [...]

I am 22 and a single mother of one daughter. I dropped out of high school halfway through my junior year because of drugs. I have “cleaned up my act” since then and have not taken any for about five years now. I have a very active sex life and am quite pleased with the [...]

I am an unmarried 20-year-old college junior majoring in the behavioral sciences. I am a Christian (not religious; there’s a difference) and come from a strong church background. I do not, however, take the standard “thou-shalt-not” view against sex. I do not believe in sleeping around or adultery, but to me premarital sex with someone [...]

I am 21 years old, white, female, and am getting married in three weeks. My fiancé (who I’ll call Dan) was my first lover (and I was his first), at the age of 16. I had experimented with fellatio and mutual masturbation before I met Dan. Sex was and is very good, but I seem [...]

I am a 33-year-old mother of two children. I have been married for 15 years, but my marriage has been shaky the last two years. We have an un¬usual problem – or maybe it’s not, I don’t know – in that I have a more active interest in sex than my husband. So many of [...]

I am a 31-year-old heterosexual woman, married for six years to a man four years my senior. We have a 4-year-old daughter, and I have been home for three years, raising her. I will be starting medical school next July; my husband is a doctor.
Both of us were raised in extremely repressive Catholic families. Sex [...]

I’m 21, a female, single but living with a guy that I really love while try¬ing to go to college part time and work full time.
I was a virgin until 18 years of age and have had no regrets since. From the first day of my college experience, I’ve been sexually active. I seem to [...]

I’m not sure most men would know how to handle the encyclopedic vari¬ety of sexual images these women entertain. Once upon a time, women were as faithful to their one standard fantasy as they were to their men in reality. In the early 1980s the single-image screen switched to a smorgas¬bord. Now, as sexual adventuring [...]

I wouldn’t dream of telling my husband any of my fantasies. He is the original missionary and I have even begun to suspect, in the last ten years, that he has a real deep problem with sex. He barely lets me touch his penis and rarely does more than touch my breasts. Anyone who can [...]

Pardon this disjointed syntax, but if I don’t mail this now I’ll change it, and I don’t want to.
I have a IQ of 158 – 165 (depending on the test). I am a college student, a theater major (technician) and art minor. I am 22, single, and was a vir¬gin until 4 months ago, and [...]

I am 22 years old, graduating from college in just a few weeks (!), single, the youngest of four, Catholic, heterosexual. I’m from a typical middleclass family, my parents are divorced (after twenty-five years of a miserable marriage). I have only one older sister and two older brothers.
I started having sexual relations after high school. [...]

I have always had fantasies and have been masturbating ever since I can remember, and it is great to know I’m far from alone. I’m 22 years old, a student at a fairly prestigious university, single (I currently have one steady boyfriend and one other lover – my boyfriend also has another lover), and am [...]

I am a 32-year-old female raised in Southern, WASP middle-class Amer¬ica by “liberal,” yet strict parents. My developmental years were very regimented and sheltered, with the myth of the proverbial “Southern Belle” well inculcated into my brain. I have worked my way through college and been very successful in my career.
My biggest problem in growing [...]

If men fail the women in this book, they do it nowhere so much as in oral sex, where women have finally come of age. Having discovered it, they cannot get enough. It is a fascinating turn of events, given traditional woman’s massive problems with the idea of a man putting his mouth be¬tween her [...]

I shall write this as if I were writing my fantasies to him:
First Scenario: I’m hoping we’ll be able to go this coming weekend. I’m really looking forward to having my cunt rub against the saddle while I imagine that I am riding bareback, my cunt rubbing against the hairy back of the horse, massaging [...]

NAME: Yvette (purely mythological for reasons given below) HAIR: Redhead, HEIGHT: 5ft. gin. AGE: 46 and female (am the second of four children) DIVORCED: after twenty years of marriage to an alcoholic CHILDREN: two girls, ages 25 and 20 CITIZENSHIP: Born in Canada. I am a naturalized U.S. citizen. SCHOOLING: High school graduate, 2+ years [...]

1. One day I was lying on the couch in my living room in just a robe (I had just showered). I was bored and slipped a porno flick into the VCR and lay back to enjoy. I was getting really turned on, and even though it was the middle of the morning, I thought, [...]

I am 42, married with two children. I would like to share my fantasy with you. I feel it illustrates how we create situations to suit our needs. Its first appearance was during a period of very low self-esteem. I am anony¬mous. I spend the middle of the day in a hotel suite furnished to [...]

I’m a 19-year-old high school graduate who is currently looking after an invalid grandmother. I have black hair, blue eyes, I’m 5 feet 61/z inches, and weigh 147 pounds. People tell me I’m exceptionally good looking, but I was never one to judge my own appearance. A very close friend described me once as being [...]

God! What a relief to know that there are thousands of women every age who have fantasies and that many have done the very same things I have.
I am 30 years old, married six years and have a 7-year-old daughter. I had my daughter when I was 22, “out of wedlock.” I was brought up [...]

I embarked upon the path to active sex a bit early – I can say that in ret¬rospect – since I had no real relationship with my mother as woman to woman. She never exhibited any sexual feelings or attitudes until recently when she discovered how to enjoy them without shame. You see, I gave [...]

I’m a 25-year-old black woman name of Lydia, middle class and single. Ever since my boyfriend left me, I’ve been having varied and exciting fan¬tasies about him, which I never had before we met. Oh, I did have them, but the characters were faceless, nameless without much pleasure or inter¬est for me. If he only [...]

I am a horny bitch and love reading about sexual experiences and fanta¬sies. I love to masturbate and do it often. I am getting wet and horny just writing to you. I never thought I would write about MY OWN sexual ex¬periences and fantasies.
I am white, 50 years old, single and a virgin who loves [...]

I am 34 years old, overweight, married ten years, and have three children ages 8, 6, and 3. My husband is only the second man I have ever slept with. Neither my first experience at age 19 (with an abortion at 20), nor my hus¬band has been able to bring me to climax. I never [...]

I am happily married 25 years to a wonderful man who is very dull, so I fantasize a lot, which helps to arouse me before sex. The only way I can climax is through oral sex, which my husband likes, so he keeps me satis¬fied. His sex drive is low, so much of the time [...]

My own favorite fantasy is quite detailed and elaborate, and I’d die a happy woman if only I could find the man who could fulfill it. I have actu¬ally done this to myself dozens of times, usually every oilier weekend, when I’m home alone and have at least two hours to kill. One time I [...]

The power of the pleasure giver. Many of these women have felt it, rel¬ished it – for it is an exciting awareness of power – and they dream of work¬ing their magic on a man again, of loving him with their mouths and then of viewing their handiwork, the spent cock, the pool of cum, [...]

I am 32 years old. I come from a family that has the disease of alcohol¬ism; my father is the “identified patient,” that is, the alcoholic. I was mar¬ried once, for six years. I attempted to masturbate from college age on, but it was always just frustrating and boring. At age 32 I met my [...]

My background: I’m 21, a college student, white suburban and middle class (though somewhat poorer since my parents got divorced in my junior year of high school). My father is a college professor with a master’s de¬gree. He is very old-fashioned (61 years old) and hates women since my mother divorced him. My mother is [...]

I am 39 years old, twice married, with one son from my first marraige, and I am now raising my four stepchildren from my second marriage. My marriage is very solid as we believe in commitment and we are faithful churchgoers, very much respected in our church and in our community. I have a college [...]

I am almost 19, unmarried, pretty, confident, a student at a respected college, raised in an upper-upper-middle-class family. My parents, how¬ever, are anything but traditional and conservative; rather, eccentric is a better word. I don’t feel entirely comfortable chatting about sex with my parents, but my mother says it’s perfectly natural to feel this way. [...]

I am 21 years old, white, a high school grad, one year college, single, and currently an unemployed bookkeeper. I am from the East Coast but cur¬rently live in the Midwest.
My earliest sexual experience was with masturbation which I started at age 3. I used to play with myself at nap time at day care. [...]

I’m 40, a high school graduate, married for twenty-four years, mother of two grown children, and a 14-year-old still at home. I’ve been married in name only for thirteen years, but I never broke loose until a year ago, when I met the man I love and plan to marry within the next year or [...]

There is another very new expression of power for women that belongs in this chapter. According to the sex manuals, anything over three people ¬a menage a trois – constitutes a group, anything over seven people, an orgy. The theory most often repeated to me in the past by sex therapists and ana¬lysts was that [...]

Women have always been known for being more romantic than men, so it’s really hard to believe people think we shouldn’t or don’t have fantasies. That’s the main reason I read romantic books about pirates kidnapping women then falling in love with them. It’s a fantasy I can get into, even partly live as I [...]

I am 20 years old. I was married at 18 to a man I worked with in the
U.S. Military Service, and we have a son almost a year old. We have a good marriage and a good sex life. I am the first woman my husband (I’ll call him David) ever had intercourse with, but [...]

Rob and I were married by a justice of the peace in January. We have not seen each other since March 7. Rob was arrested on that last day. He has been charged with possession of stolen merchandise. This is thanks to a “friend” who turned state evidence against him. I want you to understand [...]

I started masturbating when I was 5 or 6.1 guess that I had normal sex-ual experiences for a girl in early junior high and high school. You know, the usual petting and fingering, etc. but I never had sex.
Until last year… and then I met this really wonderful guy who I really fell in love [...]

I am 30 years old and am a registered nurse. I am a college graduate who has been happily married for 7 years. Here is my fantasy:
My husband and I are vacationing in the Caribbean and are having din-ner in a cozy but crowded restaurant, when the headwaiter asks if we would mind sharing our [...]

I am 20, a student and in my second year at university. I was a virgin un¬til the age of 19 (it was actually my birthday) when I succumbed to the wishes of my first steady boyfriend. Since then we have split up, and it is only now that I am getting over the trauma [...]

As monogamy and even chastity become alternatives to sexual experi-mentation, the question arises as to what we do with all the information, stimulation, everything we did and learned in the last twenty years. What we assimilate from the past and what we throw away will be decided largely by women, who have always held the [...]

I’m 28, divorced and have a daughter a year and a half old. I went to Bi¬ble College for two and a half years. It was dually accredited, which means you took a double major; theology and English were mine.
I was a virgin when I married and never cheated on my husband.
I now have a [...]

Although I have had a fairly active sex life for the last seven years, I managed to repress most of my sexual fantasies (without even being aware that I was doing so), for fear of being “unfair” to my partner or “abnormal” in some way. Now I have a rich, satisfying fantasy life, thanks to [...]

I am 38 years old, divorced twice, with two small children. My first mar¬riage was completely sexless and dull. I was much too young (20) and very immature. I had an affair with a man twice my age and ended the marriage. In the affair I realized what real passion could be like with someone [...]

I am a white female, 20 years old, single, a full-time college student, pursuing a career in nursing. I lifeguard and teach swimming part time.
Nobody really discussed sex in my family when I was young, and I can’t remember having sexual feelings until I was about 15.1 lost my virginity at age 16 which to [...]

I am a 26-year-old woman who calls herself a lesbian, though some folks might want to say I’m bisexual. I’m not gonna fool myself and say I’m never attracted to men, in fact, I find myself responding to men much more than I did in the past, either because men have been improving, or I’ve [...]

Other women do have fantasies and I am not strange or sick. What a wonderful thing to know.
I was raised in a strictly religious home. Sex was never mentioned and questions about it were ridiculed. My father was a very abusive man and frequently hurt us. I attended a small, church-supported college and am now [...]

You have written that women are not turned on by the thought of two male homosexuals and that they feel threatened by homosexuals because women would not want to compete with other women and men for men.
If this is the case, then I must be a rather unique woman. The thought of two men making [...]

I am 19 and am bisexual. I am currently living with my lover and best friend of 4 years, and I love her so much, we are so close and honest!
I am an incredibly horny person. I have only had sex with a man once, and I don’t really consider myself to have had sex [...]

I am a white, 24 year-old, married mother of one. I completed high school with honors (28 in a class of about 450), went on to college, but married after the first quarter. I am five feet seven and a half inches tall, attractive, overweight (but working on it!!). I was very active sexually since [...]

Who could fail to admire the design of the penis, worthy of the Leonardo da Vinci award for beauty and versatility, form and function?
Envy begins with admiration; there is that moment, before admiration sours into bitter resentment, when we feel the “Ah!” of appreciation.
Alas, the pages of Men in Love were filled with the laments [...]

I am 34 years old, Caucasian, married 4 years (third marriage for me, second for my husband). Between us we have 5 children from 8 to 19 and one grandchild. My husband is a professional, and I “retired” three years ago to be an “at-home mom.”
I do not recall having any sort of sexual feelings [...]

I am 27, single, wholesome family upbringing, heterosexual. I have a doctorate, support myself quite well (I own my own home, etc., in San Diego), have a lover about once a week, masturbate three times a week. I have an identical twin sister -we were always very close but shared no sex¬ual experiences. I did [...]

I was divorced seven years ago and have one daughter. I was raised on a farm and I assume most of my fantasies about urination come from watch¬ing our animals (especially horses). I partied frequently in high school with friends who drank alcohol (especially beer) and have vivid memories of watching the men urinate.
I am [...]

Lots of times I fantasize about a guy getting raped. He is always a bad guy and gets his just desserts. It is always a group rape, and he is humili¬ated by becoming aroused and ejaculating. I always fantasize the guy’s cock going off even if it isn’t being touched. Sometimes that makes it better [...]

The theme in my favorite fantasies is actually being the man. For in-stance, I (as my husband) am sitting right next to a strip-joint “runway.” A woman struts out, with huge tits bulging out of her bra. She wags them happily in my/his face and says, “Who wants them?” She pops her bra open from [...]

I am a 24-year-old woman, married, with a 2-year-old son. I have 3 years of college and intend some day to finish. My husband is in school, and I am the breadwinner.
I’ve read your books of fantasies and have enjoyed them very much. I am, however, disturbed by the fact that I was extremely aroused [...]

I am a 23-year-old woman. I am currently in a computer school, but I eventually want to write and illustrate a book. I am very creative and rather strange in just about any way there is to be strange. My parents were not puritanical (though just behind the times). I masturbated freely as a child [...]

My research on the interaction between women’s real lives and their sex¬ual fantasies continues. If you would like to contribute, please write to me at the address below. Include biographical information that you feel is rele¬vant to your sexual development, such as relationships with your mother and father, history of masturbation, loss of virginity, earliest [...]

Men who would like to contribute to my continuing research should in-clude your sexual fantasies along with whatever biographical information you feel has influenced your sexual development and the nature and story line of your fantasies. This might include parental attitude toward your early sexuality, age of first masturbation along with current practice, plus any [...]