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I want to tell you a true story about a typical sexual encounter between me and the sexiest, most passionate woman I’ve ever met. Of course, passion is only one of the reasons I married Jeffre. I hope reading it turns you on as much as writing it turned me on. If you play with [...]

Later on in this chapter, we’ll practice other sexual positions: you on top, sideby side, scissors, spooning, doggie style, and even standing. Some are moreexciting and some are less, depending on your and your partner’s anatomy.Experimenting is the order of the day. Bummer, you’ve got to try it a bunch ofways and see what works [...]

If you’re thinking about making your partner cum and holding back your own ejaculation, your awareness will be consumed with orgasms. The Ultimate Ecstatic Solution helps you generate incredible mutual orgasms, but without directly targeting them. As related earlier, your focus needs to be on pleasure in the moment. If you can appreciate how great [...]

Now that we’re both really turned on by the prospect of the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution, we can get started. To begin with, thanks for buying this book. More than anything else this is my personal story that I want to share with you. If you’re interested enough to read this book and change your love [...]

You know how to breathe properly and pump your PC already. Now we’re going to combine these tools. You’ll want to do all these energy exercises naked or with loose clothing. Find a quiet uninterrupted space where you won’t be interrupted. Play some suitable slow sensuous rhythmic music. One of our favorites is el-Hadra (available [...]

When the average person gets close to cuming, their breath becomes shorter and faster, maybe even panting uncontrollably. So, one of the best ways to relax when excited is to learn to breathe slower and deeper. Further, it helps to interrupt the stress response you may experience during exciting or anxious moments of lovemaking.
Most of [...]

If it bums you out to think about all that goes wrong when you cum too soon, you might be tempted to skip this section. But don’t. Though I’m sure you know some of them, I’ll bet you aren’t aware of all of the factors that can cause too rapid timing of your orgasm. In [...]

Many ancient cultures, particularly in the East, studied our subtle energies and devised methods to gain greater mastery over them. Common to many practices are the “chakras”. These are energy centers or vortices inside the body, residing from the bottom of the spine to the top of the head. Though 25 energy is energy, when [...]

If you haven’t tried these options, experiment with different positions before moving on…
• man flat on back, woman kneeling over him, leaning forward, facing towards his head
• man flat on back, woman kneeling over him leaning back
• man flat on back, woman squatting, bouncing on her feet over him
• man on back with knees bent [...]

On one end of the sexual spectrum is “wham bam, thank you ma’am.” On the other end is Tantric Love Play. This Tantric ultimate blossoms when you take the time and care to create the right environment, mood, and physical space. We call it creating the sacred space to consciously accentuate that we’re bringing the [...]

As I mentioned already, cuming quickly doesn’t mean that you’re broken. In fact, it’s more common than you might think. It’s just not the kind of thing most guys discuss over a cold one, is it? Only 2 Minutes? According to some estimates, about 30 percent of American men reach orgasm earlier than they’d like. [...]

Pre-masturbation means having sex alone about two to four hours before the big event. The method is based on the fact that most of us are less sensitize and have less desire after cuming. Are you? I know I am. As I’ve already mentioned, in my 50s I sometimes can’t get and stay hard for [...]

Desensitizing means using products or techniques to make vajra temporarily less sensitize. Experts report little long-term progress with ejaculatory mastery by using these methods. In fact, the whole idea is repugnant to a Tantric lover who aims to heighten senses, not reduce them. But it’s an understandable premise that may even help a given situation [...]

Yeah, we’re really upping the ante when you give and receive at the same time. If you’re anything like me and most of the sexy guys I know, giving pleasure turns you on almost as much as receiving. Doing each other together is a double whammy for really sensitive guys like us. But you’ve made [...]

We all build up sexual tension in our bodies. Consequently, untrained lovers too often treat sex as a way to relieve this pressure and blow off steam. These mini-explosions release energy quickly in a few-second flash of pleasure.
There’s nothing wrong with a hot quickie now and then. But, explosive orgasm, more so for men when [...]

You now get to start one of my favorite parts of this program, self-pleasuring vajra. The first exercise is designed to heighten your awareness of your ejaculation response: the point of no return, emission, and expulsion. Actually, it belongs in the next section, but I’ve put a copy here in case you cum during the [...]

E stands for energy and circulating it away from your genitals. But it could also stand for Ecstasy. In fact, you might consider the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution teaching about S.E.X. which is really Subtle Energy eXstacy. Because most of us are programmed to rush towards the Big O, we come into the arena of love [...]

Tantric sex is about mastering energy, the vitality of life. Everything in the physical universe is in motion due to energy flowing. The cells in our bodies, the blood in our veins, the electrical impulses in our nerves all continuously vibrate inside. Energy is the physical oscillations that our bodies feel all the time. If [...]

It seemed a little lifetime passed until vajra’s slow shallow-at-first thrusts reached inside her fully. We both tried to be still, but the internal vibrations simply engulfed both of us together. These spasms that spread all over were so delightful that we just let them run their course. A couple of times we couldn’t help [...]

First of all, this is an exercise program. It’s like going to the gym to work various muscle groups. Of course, in this case you’ll be developing your sexual reflexes which are defined by RAMPER. My point is that you need to plan for the long gradual approach as opposed to the one shot deal. [...]

Rhythmic wavelike soft-muscle contractions propel the semen down your urethra and out the head of your penis where those little swimmers have a brief fight for survival and usually lose. These contractions of your pelvic muscles that cause the actual release of semen are also the main ones that cause the fantastic pleasure. Now here’s [...]

You and I have gotten close through all these intimate exercises, right? I think it’s time to be completely honest with ourselves and with each other. Will you become the world’s greatest stud, able to satisfy any and all at any time? Maybe and maybe not. I haven’t. Sometimes, I can go all night with [...]

The following is an actual account of a Tantric evening YOU can enjoy on your one-year anniversary of starting the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution… Your lover’s invitation to join her for dinner and a whole night of play is exciting but cryptic. Her innuendoes really turn you on, but you aren’t sure what to expect. As [...]

This last chapter begins with a poignant picture of your future state of ecstasy. It’s like watching your own final exam, but one in which all you need to do is read and enjoy. If you’re interested in hands-on Tantric coaching, I’ve included some links about connecting with Tantric Goddesses. The bulk of these final [...]

Sex requires energy which is drawn from your metabolism. I’m not just talking about wild athletic fucking. High states of arousal and the physical changes that result like faster breathing and higher blood pressure can be very draining. Being fatigued or depleted can contribute to higher-than-average climax sensitivity. Consequently, if your health is less than [...]

We live in a world structured around goals, standards, and living up to expectations. What’s the media-driven performance standard for the ideal macho male lover? You know women so well that you please any and all. You play each one so well until they lose control and their desire overpowers them. Until they go completely [...]

Six exercises designed to strengthen and tone your PC muscle follow. Start by doing the first exercise twice a day, gradually increasing your repetitions, and then adding the other exercises one at a time as explained
below. If you can practice each exercise three or four times a day, it’s even better at the start. Just [...]

After you both have enough finger food and delightful champagne, she takes your hand and guides you to the bed. You both bow, touch foreheads, and look deeply into each other’s eyes. One after another, she whispers all the things she loves about your body, mind, and spirit. Similar words of love and affection can’t [...]

Being an ancient spiritual science of sacred sex, how can Tantra help? The primary answer is that Tantra is about mastering your own energy. I’m not referring to some obscure imaginary new age airy-fairy phenomenon here. I’m talking about physical stuff you feel all the time. How do you become aware of being turned on, [...]

The more you practice and play together, the more you learn about what turns each other on. Even long-time lovers don’t know everything that’s going on inside their partners at each moment. You’ve learned a tremendous amount about your erogenous zones and arousal patterns from the previous solo exercises. For the fastest results with the [...]

While we’re on the subject of fore play, let’s take a moment to consider the effect of frequency of lovemaking on sexual stamina. You know what I mean – how often you do it affects how long you can do it for. If you make love every day or two, not only do your skills [...]

In this section I’ve collected both ancient and modern techniques that you can use to interrupt ejaculation when you get too close. I’ve included this in the spirit of completeness, knowing some things work better for some guys than others. OK, this really is a confession. Though I’m good at the other exercises in this [...]

Tantra says YES! to life. It accepts everything and forbids nothing. You won’t find moral judgments here about right and wrong or good and bad. It’s outlook is one of wholeness, embracing opposites as aspects of the same thing. We recognize that judgments like good and bad are based on artificial yardsticks held fast in [...]

Karezza is a still lovemaking technique first published by Alice Bunker Stockham, a pioneering female physician, in 1883. With Karezza, vajra remains in yoni for an hour or more simply feeling the delightful energy. Whether the members of the revolutionary Oneida community in New England who developed this technique were Tantric or not, I don’t [...]

Clearly, men with long-term partners have someone close at hand to practice with. This obvious advantage may be accompanied by some drawbacks. If involuntary cuming has been a problem for some time, as wonderful as your partner may be, some emotional issues might surface when you broach the subject of Tantric sex and Orgasm Mastery. [...]

By now you’ve heard again and again you have to tune in to your senses and sensations. So what do you do with this sharpened awareness? The M in RAMPER means to monitor and measure your level of arousal. This is not just a scientific experiment, but a method of making you more sensitive to [...]

Now, we’re going to add the M – measuring your arousal level – to the relaxation and awareness you’re developing. Remember my 10 point scale for monitoring your excitement level?
0 = no arousal
1 = twinge at base of penis
2 = occasional little surges of pleasure
3 = starting to feel good
4 = steady hum low level [...]

How do you reach such mind-boggling heights? Simple, by generating and channeling orgasmic energy. The biological forces of sex certainly produce lots of energy in your genitals, especially when you’re young and healthy. But what happens when you age or get stressed by sickness or life pressures? Then you can’t depend on hormones to turn [...]

Cool title for this section, huh? Finally you get to practice the old in and out. It’s always been a moving experience for me. You’re far from the first person to be deeply interested in lasting longer during intercourse. There’s a long history of the withdrawal technique, pulling out before cuming, dating from ancient Rome [...]

Now you get to switch roles. Your partner stays still and you move, using stopstart. Because vajra’s corona and frenulum are very sensitive, some find the least stimulating place to stop is pressing into the yoni as deeply as possible. Some find the opposite true. Test it out and learn what works best for you. [...]

In this exercise, you’ll systematically isolate, tense, and then relax each muscle group in your body, starting with your toes. When muscles are tense, it’s common for most of us to clench our jaw muscles. So a good tip for all exercises in this book, especially the relaxation ones, is to keep your tongue on [...]

So often I felt such powerful surges of pleasure that made me moan and scream like an animal. Just like she was doing. At every peak I was just the slightest slip away from cuming, and would have if this story began before I learned what’s in this book. Instead, I paced myself to reach [...]

These next exercises are all about developing the A of RAMPER, namely awareness of your body. This is how you will learn to be more present and focus in the right direction. Do you remember that presence and visualization together are one of the four cornerstones of ecstatic sex?
Did anyone ever suggest to you that [...]

Here is an optional exercise which follows the same sequence of steps using oral pleasuring. I call it optional because not everyone loves oral sex the way we do. If you’re willing, it’s another great way to develop Orgasm Mastery in a highly exciting situation.
1) Use a comfortable position for both of you.
2) After preliminaries [...]

This book is about how to be a master, at choice, to enjoy lots more pleasure for an extended period of time. Additionally, you’re going to learn to have different “kinds” of orgasms than you’re used to, as many as you want for as long as you choose. Now doesn’t that sound like mastery? You’re [...]

OK, you’ve relaxed. You’ve become more sensitive. You’ve measured how good it feels. Will these change your stamina dramatically? Well, maybe. But really the RAM part of RAMPER is simply vital preparation for the P step. P stands for pacing yourself.
No, I take that back. P stands for Pleasure. If your focus is on pleasure [...]

If you have one primary long-term partner or several lovers that you’re intimate with, I strongly recommend you brief them on what you’re doing here. This is partly because secrecy can create tension that contributes to involuntary explosions of the seminal variety. Chapters 3 and 4 discuss solo pleasuring because refining your arousal pattern is [...]

Early in the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution, you practiced becoming more aware of your body and senses. In this exercise, you’ll exchange gentle exploratory massage like you did in your solo Whole Body Sensory Focus practice in section 3.4. This is just another step in learning to shift your focus to other erogenous zones so all [...]

Common Aims
Tantric lovemaking is a joint dance where each lover surrenders to inner waves of energy and both assist each other to reach higher and higher peaks. Pleasure, not orgasm, is the aim. By soaring together, each partner can reach unheard of peaks and plateaus that culminate in bigger, stronger, deeper, often simultaneous spiritual climaxes. [...]

Lovers with a deep heart-to-heart connection will inherently want the best for each other. With agreement on the vision of Tantric lovemaking, they’ll naturally accept the roles being spelled out here. But lovers who believe that they’re totally at fault for their partner’s genital sensitivity may be reluctant to fully engage. Both must own their [...]

Although these methods are extremely effective, it might require weeks of practice before you get it just right. Some say this is a six-month program. Oh no, not weeks or months of making love over and over again? Yes, I’m afraid so. Again, it’s doctor’s orders. Most sex therapists agree that, if you’re willing to [...]

We’ve made great progress with R, A, and M of RAMPER, but I want to skip ahead to a vital series of exercises to strengthen your sexual muscles. Using your internal pelvic muscles is a vital part of E, a key method of circulating energy. That’s because toning the muscles at the floor of your [...]

Once you’ve strengthened your PC muscle through several weeks of calisthenics, you have a more convenient way of interrupting ejaculation. That’s what I used in the story at the beginning of Chapter 1. Tightening your PC firmly has a similar effect on your prostate to the perineum push. It’s like putting on the car brakes [...]

Peaking is all about letting your excitement rise to a high level and then immediately drop back down. If you graphed your arousal, the line would look like a mountain climber scaling a steep mountain peak, steeply up and then precipitously down. I’m going to show you a spectrum of techniques to suddenly reduce your [...]

The four cornerstones of ecstasy include movement. PC pumps are powerful internal motions, but we need to include the rest of your body. If you’ve ever experienced a full body orgasm where you writhe, undulate, and vibrate all over, you’ll know what I mean. And if you haven’t, boy, have you got something to look [...]

The final solo P ability for you to master is plateauing. If you picture peaking as shooting up steeply and then dropping quickly, plateauing will be easy to grasp. Here, you move up to a high level of pleasure and then stay there, enjoying it as long as you want. When you can circulate the [...]

Tantrikas believe in enjoying life to the fullest. Deferred gratification isn’t part of the mindset. Be good, earn your ticket to heaven, and you’ll be rewarded in the next life just doesn’t fit in. Tantra is the true art of living in which pleasure now becomes the central theme in each moment. Which is why [...]

Being part of the first emission phase of ejaculation, the prostate gland is a vital component of your sexual equipment. If it’s inflamed or enlarged, called prostatitis, it can easily make you more sensitive to stimulation and more likely to cum at a moment’s notice. If you’re very sensitive down there or have trouble peeing, [...]

Rear entry positions are some of the most exciting for me. Maybe that’s because the woman’s legs are closer together creating more friction on vajra’s sides. The disadvantage of these positions is that communication is more difficult since you can’t maintain eye contact. Being past my gymnastic prime, I have to admit that I’ve never [...]

When you retain your energy inside, your pleasure rises to higher and higher levels. That’s why the acronym RAMPER is so apt, describing how your pleasure ramps up. Those of us who cum quickly never experience these escalating plateaus. We never develop our capacity to absorb more and more pleasure. When we finally do, it [...]

This exercise begins with the part of your PC muscle around your rosetta (asshole) and spreads to your whole PC. We’re aiming to contract the PC around the sphincter that you use to stop a bowel movement, but, at the start, most of us also contract our lower stomach muscles, too. Begin by simply relaxing [...]

Though it’s only one of aspect, Tantra is often referred to as sacred sexuality. Is it because Tantric practice is a way to bring sexuality into harmony with spirituality? Is it because we treat love play an expression of spirit? Is it because we view sexual love as a sacrament and sacred union? Yes, but [...]

A major part of self-monitoring during your individual practices will be learning how close you can go without squirting. Up to this point we haven’t made a big deal about avoiding cuming or controlling your level of excitation. Now, to develop greater awareness and mastery over your orgasms, we’re going to repeat the previous exercise [...]

The Ultimate Ecstatic Solution is about increasing pleasure of all kinds. Tantrikas honor, almost worship, pleasure as a divine gift. So you won’t find me using the term masturbation, since that’s got all kinds of hidden, guilty, dirty connotations. This exercise is about self-pleasuring, giving yourself the gift of the maximum pleasure that your body [...]

Sound is one of the four cornerstones of sexual ecstasy. Because most of us are conditioned to be quiet during sex, few realize the potential power of sound to stimulate and regulate excitement. Using the sounds that naturally emanate from your body when it’s feeling pleasure is a great way to circulate energy and spread [...]

My beloved asked for sensuous massage, first with rabbit fur and then with scented oil. We had no agenda and no time frame so I touched her ever so softly and slowly. Her moans confirmed how she enjoyed my attentions. She writhed and vibrated with passion, streaming orgasmic energy all over her body. I tuned [...]

In our society, for the most part, sex is a private experience because it’s a taboo subject. We hide our insecurities, make rude jokes, and don’t talk about it openly. Too many of us obsess about when to make the first move, or how to initiate with a long-time partner instead of joyously enjoying verbal [...]

Maybe that’s why Tantrikas describe sex as meditation. Meditation is simply sitting and emptying the mind. Since you can’t force thoughts away, this is more challenging than it sounds. Over the millennia, gurus have developed many meditation techniques from reciting mantras to watching the breath to witnessing ideas floating by. They all seek to create [...]

We’re just about done with what you can do yourself. One last main technique, plateauing, remains to help extend your loving stamina. Before we go there let’s do a brief check-in. If after repeated practice you don’t feel any energy movement, look back at the earlier exercises and see if you short-circuited something. Maybe one [...]

Have you noticed yet that many of these exercises are based on earlier skills you developed? Let’s combine Sexual Breathing with Self-Pleasuring. Sexual Breathing Self-Pleasuring combines giving yourself pleasure while moving the energy from your genitals up your inner flute. Why? Because it should feel good, even better than just doing vajra. Because you get [...]

As you’ve done before with self-pleasuring, your next assignment is to use sexual breathing to channel the energy throughout your body.
1) Lay on your back with your partner straddling you.
2) Ask if she is ready for vajra and guide him to slowly penetrate yoni. When vajra is completely inserted, remain still, simply feeling the sensations [...]

This section teaches you to combine many of things you already know how to do in a way that propels the movement of orgasmic energy in your body. We’re solidly in the E camp of RAMPER now, the realm of energy circulation. Sexual Breathing is the kind of breath, sound, movement, and mental focus that [...]

The position you’re in while fucking can affect your ability to maintain arousal without ejaculating. Most experts agree that the typical ‘missionary’ position with the man on top of his partner is not the best to extend lovemaking.
When you’re on top, you have to support your weight. This generates muscle tension in your arms, shoulders, [...]

As I remember the story, Shangri-La was some sort of idyllic mountain valley in the Himalayas where everything was beautiful and everyone was happy all the time. Embrace Tantric Love Play as presented here and you’ll be transported there. You may not want to leave. Now that you have the skills to make love for [...]

So your first global assignment is to slow down. Please don’t start out with expectations for instant results. You might have some amazing changes quickly. Many do, but don’t bank on it. Expectations will just add to your anxiety level and decrease the first step of RAMPER, namely relax. Instead, start slowly, feel good about [...]

Maybe it’s clearer now why we say Tantra isn’t a set of beliefs or philosophies. It’s a path of experience. Without any standard of how we should behave or think, Tantra lets our underlying selves unfold. Practice is the heart and soul of Tantra. Tantric practices are exercises and rituals that open energy pathways, heighten [...]

With the basic exercises well in hand (yes, that was a double entendre), you’re ready for Solo Mastery. This chapter is about learning to stay at the point of no return indefinitely. Interested? I bet! Chapter 4 begins by teaching peaking, how to go from 1 on the 10-point arousal scale steeply up to 9 [...]

Now that you have some confidence that you can back off with your partner’s help, it’s time to move on to Subtle Adjustments Peaking. Here, you’ll repeat the previous exercise except you’ll ask your partner to make small changes in how vajra is being pleasured instead of stopping entirely. Your communication skills will become even [...]

Hopefully you’ve practiced Stop-Start Peaking enough that you’re developing the confidence that you can back off when you need to. But what if you’re with a partner who is so excited that you don’t want to interrupt the flow? Here’s where Subtle Adjustments Peaking can help. Now, you’ll repeat the previous exercise except you’ll make [...]

Jeffre gives awesome manual pleasure. We’ve learned a lot about extending our love play by exchanging this kind of erotic touching, not to mention having great fun and improving our communication skills. We call them “hand jobs”so I thought I’d call a spade a spade with this pivotal exercise.
Exercise: Stop-Start Hand Job You’ve got lots [...]

Don’t get me wrong, all kinds of sex are great. Remember, we define S.E.X. as Subtle Energy eXchange. In the enlightened view, any consenting sex is good sex. That could simply be sensuous massage or sharing mental fantasies. So when I extol the celestial virtues of Tantric Love Play, don’t think that I mean to [...]

Welcome, my friend, to the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution. By arriving here, you’ve developed all the faculties to perfect your Tantric mastery of lovemaking. This chapter is all about the last R of RAMPER, which is Ride the wave. It’s a wave of orgasmic energy, of love bliss, of ecstatic delirium, of spiritual rapture. Once you [...]

The secret (can I trust you with it?) to ejaculatory mastery is relaxation. There are so many things that can create tension and anxiety in the scary arena of sex, I’m actually astounded how many men learn to pace themselves in the sack. Here are just a few of the common stresses that can cause [...]

I think it’s a good bet that you’re familiar with the overall experience of ejaculating. Right, you get excited, really turned on, squirt, and then your dick gets soft. But there’s more to it that you need to grasp, so to speak. I’m talking about the very pleasurable ten-second involuntary muscle contractions that we call [...]

In Tantra, sex is an art and a science. We explore it fully and comprehensively, immersing ourselves fully just like we do with every other part of life. Of course, this is a major challenge with arguably the most repressed aspect of modern life.
Learning the full appreciation of sex teaches us to delight in our [...]

Yes, my titles are getting more and more descriptive. Why not consider how you move vajra in and out of yoni an art? As your love stamina increases, a whole range of possibilities opens up to you. You can always resort to fast animal pumping when you really want to. But let’s put our attention [...]

The key to joyous living is first loving ourselves. This begins with an exceedingly difficult assignment, accepting our bodies the way they are now. Here’s another great example of Tantra’s novel approach to life. The media and mass consciousness, having created the vision of the perfect form, encourages us to fill ourselves full of negative [...]

Without a doubt, the mind is a powerful sex organ. My beloved friend and popular Tantra teacher in San Diego, Dr. Anastas Harris, teaches that “where attention goes, energy flows.” Focus on pleasure and your experience becomes more intense. Think about not cuming and you will do it anyway. We all attract what we focus [...]

We always do our best to make love in the moment, with no stress in the perfect surroundings. That evening was no exception. It was early enough that we weren’t exhausted from the day and had no time limit. We bathed each other carefully to wash away the outside world. We entered our private Tantric [...]

The rapturous dance I refer to as Tantric love play will have to wait until the next chapter. But you have arrived at the chapter which is all about lasting during sexual penetration. that’s pretty damned real if you ask me. I call the exercises that follow VIY for Vajra- In-Yoni. Of course, in Tantra [...]

The approach to learning the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution is called RAMPER which stands for…
• Relax,
• Awareness,
• Measure,
• Pace yourself,
• Energy circulation, and
• Ride the wave.
Let me introduce you to the important aspects of each so you’ll know what you’ll be practicing beginning in the next chapter.
R = Relax
You remember what normally happens to our bodies [...]

Yes, our goal is for you to master orgasms and separate them from ejaculating. But this whole pursuit is about pleasure and enjoyment. The ends definitely do not justify harsh, unpleasant means. So after a solo practice session of stimulating yourself, you may want to cum. I’m not going to preach about this in the [...]

Many ancient texts proclaim the transformative power of moving orgasmic energy even higher, to the throat, brain, third eye behind the eyebrows, and the crown of the head. If you’re aiming to utilize Tantra as it was originally envisioned, to raise awareness, it makes total sense to wash the brain with this concentrated life force. [...]

Lovemaking is complex because it requires managing your own stimulation while responding to your partner’s signals. Your mind can be full of questions like “Is what I’m doing working?”, “What do I do next?”, “Am I getting too close?” and “Is my partner getting close?”
That’s why we begin Ultimate Ecstatic Solution partner training by alternating [...]

I’m sure you’re aware that when you get stimulated, blood flows into vajra and causes a shiva lingam (an erection). If you squeeze in the right place, you can force blood out of vajra and reduce the erection. This helps many men delay their explosive orgasms.
If you do a Vajra Squeeze just before the point [...]

First, we’re simply going to introduce vajra to yoni and her environment. This is a gentle way for vajra to acclimatize to yoni’s warm, moist, and powerful energy field. Be sure you remember to breathe and find positions in which you can relax as much as possible. As you feel your energy rise, be sure [...]

Tantra is about living life to its fullest. The heart and soul of Tantra is raising consciousness. Tantra teaches us to be more and more aware of our connection with all things. So many people are swept through life looking at pictures in the mind instead of living moment to moment. They spend their consciousness [...]

Tantra grew up thousands of years ago in India, China, and Tibet as a grassroots rebellion against the repressive religions of the day. Back then, to even reach for enlightenment required lifetimes of denying desire and doing penance for past-life karma.
Tantra opened the doors of spiritual evolution to everyone. Tantric adepts needed to master 64 [...]

Tantra is an ancient Eastern spiritual system of sacred sexuality. Being a spiritual art and practice, Tantra is primarily a way of life leading to deeper meaning and enlightenment. Tantra accepts all natural forces just the way they are. It guides you to harness the raw power of love and sex to fuel higher consciousness [...]

Shama says “Men overlook signals leading to ejaculating because they’ve been conditioned to believe that women desire constant, hard, and fast lovemaking which defines you as a real man.” We’re gonna try to change your mind about that. I haven’t done a scientific study (yet) but my experience proves most women want something more Tantric. [...]

I know I don’t have to convince you that lasting longer is a great idea. But let me just mention that you can’t experience the kind of ecstatic wave we’re seeking here if you rush headlong towards orgasm or try to hold yourself back. You have to learn to relax into intense pleasure in order [...]

If you haven’t tried these options, experiment with different positions before moving on…
• man flat on back, woman kneeling over him, leaning forward, facing towards his head
• man flat on back, woman kneeling over him leaning back
• man flat on back, woman squatting, bouncing on her feet over him
• man on back with knees bent [...]

Your role in partner play begins with being able to receive pleasure. At first glance that may SOUND easy. I’m talking about relaxing, emptying your mind of doubt, rising above your fears, letting yourself go, and forgetting about reciprocating for the moment. We all seem to have programmed limits of how much pleasure we’re willing [...]